Spark Your Joy: The Surprising Science Behind Vision Boards with Dianne Reichenbach

Interview Episode with Dianne Reichenbach

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So then you block the universe providing or you are we are, you know, controlling. I'm going to do this and it's going to happen exactly like this. So then you're like dictating to the universe, the how, but the thing is, the universe will provide you in a way you didn't expect and oftentimes even better.

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Laurin: Hello, friends, and welcome to Curiously Wise. I'm Lauren Wittig, your host, as always. And today I have someone who's really become a friend over the last what, six or eight months. We, we ended up in an online group together and just really clicked. And and I've invited her to come in and do some work with my circle.

That was just awesome. And we're going to talk a little bit. We're going to talk a lot about with that. That kind of work is. So let me just give you the formal lowdown on Dianne Reichenbach. I think I got that right.

Dianne: You got it right.

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She left the corporate world to follow her dream of being a life business coach and vision board trainer. Through her workshops, group, or one on one coaching, she takes you on a journey to connect with your dreams. Through the creation of a vision board, her questions and exercises lead you to connect with your inner wisdom.

You have all the answers within you, and she is a thinking partner to help create clarity and confidence to achieve your goals. Welcome to curiously wise, Dianne. I've been so looking forward to this conversation.

Dianne: I have too. We have so much fun together. And when you asked me to be a guest, I was so honored and I've been anticipating and the day is finally here. So I can't wait to get started.

Laurin: Yeah. Yeah. This is going to be awesome. I say that about every single guest I have, but it's always true.

Dianne: I know. And I can't wait to hear some of the podcasts you've been telling me about because all the topics are so fascinating.

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And it was pretty much just a bunch of us girls getting together, tearing up magazines and making a collage. And sometimes it was helpful and sometimes it was like, well, that's a really pretty collage, but not getting what I need to from it. And so when I met, when I started to learn about what Dianne does, I got really fascinated because she brings Brain science into it.

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Dianne: Yeah. You bet. So my first experience with vision boards is when I started my career. And so I was working in cosmetics retail as a counter manager. And when you're in that role, you're either, your next step is either to be an account executive or to be a trainer. And I had decided I wanted to be an account executive.

So. I had this gut feeling in my, my, I had this intuition, this knowing, this passion that this is what I wanted to do. And I, I definitively knew it was going to happen regardless of what people said around me. And when I made this decision, I wanted, I wanted to be promoted within the company I worked already, but I was also talking to another company about working with them.

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Laurin: Yeah.

Dianne: Right? So, for me, I, when you talk about woo woo and real world stuff, it really became clear to me that they're not opposed. My, my experience to my success and how I work with my clients is a combination of tapping into your intuition and trusting it and then having tangible, practical, actionable steps to make it happen. So that's what makes me a little bit different. I do the combination of both. So when I remembered, once I got my coaching certification, I thought I really want my clients to feel an immediate ship.

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It's really hard to connect with what you want because we tend to be givers and we tend to know what other people want and we really need a space that's just for us and that's what I create. It's a space just for you where you, we do some exercises, things like if you had all the time and money in the world, what would you do

Laurin: My

Dianne: what brings what brings you bliss? do you want? But it's rapid fire repeatedly. So you weren't even thinking about it. Because one of the challenges is we really get into the left brain, which is logical, analytical, adulting, but can be limiting. So So we really tap into you and your desires, even things you may have forgotten about when you were so busy getting caught up in the hamster wheel of life, right?

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Laurin: Yeah. Dianne offered to do a sort of a mini workshop for my women's group that's, that's running right now. And it's a power word vision board. And I always take people up on things like that because I get to do them too. And it was the way you led us through it made it, it wasn't effortful. Because you, you just took a step and it was like, I didn't even realize we reached the end of the journey until we got there and it it made creating, we, we did a little mini board instead of a great, you know, a regular big vision board

Dianne: I have mine here by my laptop.

, but very purposefully led. [: 00:08:00

We're writing it down. So it's because it's we, we, we did it in a small group, but it, it revealed so much and I was already putting some things together at the end, just before we did the boards that, and then you asked us to put them together that way. And that's my puzzle brain.

Dianne: Love that.

Laurin: And and it, it just was like, all of a sudden, all of these little things that we had done came together.

And from that, we got our word, because it was a power word board. And from that, we then were able to, to really focus on this. Now, you also use a different way. It's not so much a collage as an intentional arrangement, I would say.

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You mentioned collage and that that's a lot of the go to for people with vision boards, but we we stress the importance of creating space around the images. because your brain has the ability to see each intention, each emotion, each image, almost like when you're looking at a window in a department store and the mannequins are separate, you can kind of go, Oh, I really like that outfit and how that blazer goes with that skirt.

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So when you create your vision board, your brain needs to be able to have the ability because it, it registers the emotion behind an image in 13 milliseconds. So it's rapidly going, Oh, wow, I see that she wants to go to Italy. Oh, and she wants this for her business. Oh, and this is what she wants in her relationships.

This is her well being and her, and the brain is looking at this and very quickly your subconscious is working with your neuroscience to place importance on the images and the feeling behind the image that it sees, and that's why the space is important. Your brain needs to be able to take a journey and then place importance.

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Laurin: Yeah, yeah, yeah. And I, as you're saying, we need that space. That's something I feel a lot in like social media. I don't like it because it's just a constant scroll and and, and my brain doesn't have time to process it. It doesn't differentiate things. It's just a kind of a blur. Whereas if somebody presents me with one thing, brain goes, okay, I can remember this.

And it's, and I, and it becomes important to me, you know, it becomes, and, and I, I had this, I had this way of absorbing information, but not remembering where it comes from.

And so often not even remembering that I know it until something triggers it,

Dianne: Yes.

Laurin: and then it [: 00:12:00

Dianne: That's a great observation. Plus, it creates a sense of overwhelm, like if you think about the cluttered feeling of a collage, it's like if you have a pile of clothes on your chair in the bedroom, which I know I do at moments.

Laurin: I have a pile of papers over

Dianne: Or my dining room table with a pile of papers. All of a sudden, you're like, oh wow, I feel like it's clutter, right?

So the collage can come across also as clutter and be a source of stress. Whereas when you look at your board, it really should be you should have a sense of motivation, inspiration, but a peaceful approach. Do part of the images, if that's what I want to create in my life, then it should be represented on my board.

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Dianne: right? Yeah, exactly.

Laurin: So it's, it's, I was just looking at it going, look, I did space there too.

Dianne: Yeah, me too on mine.

Laurin: Yeah, here I'm going to, I am going to bring mine up.

Dianne: Yes, I'd love to see it again.

Laurin: it's here. It's

Dianne: Oh, it's beautiful.

Laurin: and I added one, there's one little thing from my yogi tea that, you know, I, they on their, their tags of their tea bags, they put things in it. It just, I'm going to read it. Cause I love it. It's “Be fearless. Know that all will be provided at the right time.”

Dianne: I

Laurin: And I just felt like that needed to be on there too.

So.

Dianne: Yes. I have follow your heart. I have dream

I sit down at my desk, which [: 00:14:00

Dianne: Yeah, me as well

Laurin: And I, I will say, I want to say this because it's been a while since you did that workshop for us what a month or maybe even 6 weeks ago. It's been it's been a while. And and I do look at it every I don't necessarily stop and consider it.

But it's just there and in that time period, I'm just connecting. I have completely shifted the focus. Of my healing practice and I brought it into the more I'm, I am in the process of bringing it into focusing more on the shamanic healing work that I do, which is my, my heart work. It's I've been a shaman many lifetimes and I, I just love doing this work for people and it's pretty weird.

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Dianne: so glad yeah, you bring up a good point, which is why I include the workshops in my coaching practice is because It is possible now everyone's on a different journey. So, you know, and I really am always so honored when the women in the group are so open and receptive and the safe space is safe and nonjudgmental and it's just for you.

So then it becomes a space where you can really quickly tap into. That connection when you're open and when you feel safe and heard and then how something doesn't always have to be complicated and the fact that it's your word. And I think one of the challenges I've experienced in the workshops is women will be like, because words have meaning and it's your word and the meaning that it represents to you.

'm thinking this is my word. [: 00:16:00

Laurin: Mm-Hmm.

Dianne: right?

And say it's okay, right? And that's a big, that's a big thing that can come out of these workshops is the connection to you, the connection to what's important to you and your ability to give yourself permission to trust it and to say it out loud,

Laurin: yeah, because we've been taught, I think culturally now you're in Canada. So I'm sure the culture is a little different there. We Americans like to think Canada is just an extension of us, but I know it's not,

Dianne: right?

Laurin: But it's we very much been taught to to be unseen.

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In the 80s and the guy at the shop's like, where's your husband?

Laurin: Mm hmm.

Dianne: it just To your point, so I would say it's the same challenge, and so as much as we've leaned into shifting to this thought process, there's still a lot of, not just our own journey, our family journey, what did we, what was our family background and upbringing and paradigms, but also societal, like there's still a lot of that, that impacts us.

What we give ourselves permission as women to do,

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Dianne: And there's a lot of stuff that goes on with that. And as an entrepreneur, we experienced that is, can I be visible

Laurin: Yeah.

Dianne: in the world and be, and can I be okay with just being my authentic self?

Laurin: Yeah. And that's something I'm still really working on.

Dianne: That's a lifelong journey. I think

Laurin: Yes.

Dianne: I'm, I were evolving with that. And that can be safety for whatever reason.

As you said. What if they don't because we're we're nurturers typically i'm a recovering people pleaser Fixer so as women again, that's where we go Okay so one of the things I talk about in the workshops is the concept of You fulfilling your desires and what you want in your life does not mean someone else suffers

Laurin: Yes.

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Laurin: Mm hmm.

Dianne: about my husband? Because we tend to, even, I've been working through this lately, subconsciously be in sort of what I call in limbo. I've got one foot in over here, what I want, and one foot over here with an ear, with an ear poised to make sure I'm, everyone else is okay, I don't want to drop the ball on that.

Oh, they're okay, well now maybe I can do this. So in the vision board workshop we try to work through that, the life you're creating includes all of those roles or relationships.

Laurin: Mm hmm.

Dianne: But you can still also do what you want,

Laurin: Yeah.

Dianne: have the hobby you want. And so it's, it's shifting through these concepts of limiting beliefs.

It's a big thing to do because it's like, first of all, tap into your desire. But also we need to address the limiting beliefs that come up that stop us. from giving ourselves permission to even have the dream.

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Dianne: I

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What would you write in this case? And in about an hour, I had the rough outline for what became my first published book.

Dianne: Isn't that incredible?

Laurin: Powerful, powerful, powerful question. And I love that you use it in the work that you're doing.

Dianne: well, and it brings me to the other one of the other things that we talk about in the workshop is ask, believe, and receive, and how challenging it is to work through all three of those parts, which is part of the manifesting. In light and creating the risk and making the vision board come true. So asking is really tricky for women because we don't ask for help because first of all, we're so used to being the one giving help and we don't want to inconvenience you and you're already busy and I don't want to be a burden.

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Laurin: Mm hmm.

Dianne: so sometimes we will limit our ask like you.

Oh, I'm not a historian. I'm not like, I have a dream. I have a vision. I have a gut instinct. I know I'm meant to do this. I trust that with everything in my body, but then the left brain goes, but I don't know how you're going to do that because you don't have this, this, this, and that. So you go, well, I'm just being logical.

I'm just being realistic, but that's not the case. You're being, you're caught up in your limiting beliefs because you, as you now don't know the how that's going to manifest, but you're working in conjunction with. Abundance and universal laws that mean anything is possible. So the question then becomes, I've done the ask, now I'm going to let go of the how, and just step into believing it will unfold, and then receiving.

iving is really hard. again, [: 00:23:00

So then you block the universe providing or you are we are, you know, controlling. I'm going to do this and it's going to happen exactly like this. So then you're like dictating to the universe, the how, but the thing is, the universe will provide you in a way you didn't expect and oftentimes even better.

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So what I try to do is I've had some great opportunities of late where the universe has said, here you go. I'm like, Ooh, that's interesting. I didn't expect it to be like that. I don't really know how to do that. And that's kind of fast. But then I went, wait, the universe has provided and I've said yes to every opportunity knowing that I've, I've asked for this

Laurin: hmm.

Dianne: and I'm just grateful and I receive and lean into whatever discomfort there is, but more from a perspective of gratitude saying this has been provided and I am worthy and I am capable.

mean, there's so many, like, [: 00:25:00

Dianne: There is.

Laurin: That happened. I mean, I live in the house.

I do now because we said we need we need a bigger house and we can't afford to live in D. C. so if we didn't have to be in D. C. where could we be? We both said Williamsburg because we've been here a number of times with the kids. We knew it was this nice little town with the college and the historical sites.

So there's a lot of cultural activity and thoughtful people here. And and then once we said that. Yeah. Everything unfurled lickety split 13 months, we went from selling our house before it went on the market to moving into this house that we've been in now for 24 years. And we built this house, you don't build houses that fast.

Dianne: No, you, you are so right. It happens fast.

Laurin: Yeah, yeah, but we just said,

Dianne: When we unblock and say, yes, wow, what happens? It's happened to me too. Amazing,

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Dianne: right?

Laurin: So it's just yeah, so many things if I look backwards in my life.

And see where I did open, I did say, yes, I will receive that not knowing how we didn't know how we were going to get down here and how long it was going to take or anything or even where we were going to live in the interim, you know,

Dianne: yes.

Laurin: but it just each step unfolded and they didn't come all at once. They unfolded 1 by 1.

So we had to keep being. Sure, that it was all going to be fine. Everything would be delivered when it needed to be in the way we needed it. Or that would serve us best and, you know, it just. It was magical. And I had even seen this neighborhood. That was the first thing when I went to look online for, for places in Williamsburg, that we should go looking, this was the first one.

And we said, Oh, we can't afford that place.

Dianne: limiting [: 00:27:00

Laurin: limiting belief. We got down here, found we're poking around in a neighborhood just next to this one. And I saw the sign. I said, Oh, that's the one I saw on online. We should just go look at it. We're right here. Let's just go look at it.

Dianne: Yes.

Laurin: We bought a lot within 48 hours.

Dianne: But see, this is the other thing I'm talking about too, is there are little prompts, little voices. or knowing a feeling. And when you lean into that, that is the power of your intuition, working with the universe to say it's right. And just lean into it and say yes and don't, don't even think about it.

And it will unfold. That's what's always happened to me.

Laurin: Yeah. Yeah. That's that receiving part, right? It's believing.

forget, or it has a greater [: 00:28:00

Because we're human and we don't, depending on where we're at, we may not be thinking as big as, as the universe has in mind for us. And so, you know, trusting and leaning into that, not being, well, that's just crazy. Like just lean into it and try not to lose. Who knows what magic can open up

Laurin: Right. And for us, there was some fear about the whole process of moving here. So that didn't get in the way just because I think partly we'd spent two years looking for a place that we could afford with good school, you know, this kind of stuff and that my husband could still commute to downtown D.

C. with in a reasonable amount of time. That's the kicker.

Dianne: Yeah.

Laurin: just, it's like we gave up. It's like, it's not happening. We can't find what we need here in a, you know, in a way that we can afford it where else that's when the, the, what if question comes in, what if we didn't have to be tied to D. C.

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Dianne: Sure.

Laurin: You know, but it was, it was that, okay, we were, we're at the end of our rope. We, we have resisted the idea of somewhere else for a long time. What if we could make that work?

Dianne: Yes.

Laurin: And we jumped and, and there was still fear involved. I don't want anybody to think that we just went, it's going to work. But we, we were at a place where we were willing to go all in on that. And and sometimes that's what you have to do. Sometimes you have to resist for a while until they kind of wear you out.

Dianne: 100 percent agree. Oh, many times that's happened in my life. We're just, okay, we're just going to have to tire her out because she is just blocking and blocking and blocking. And I've noticed, okay, I, there must be a reason I'm getting really tired out here. I just need to let go and let in. Yeah.

Laurin: Yeah. Yeah. I need to give up that. I don't know how I need to just,

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Laurin: and this is where curiosity comes in for me because I go, I don't know how to do that. done other things in the past that I didn't know how to do. Hmm. How this is going to, where, where's the resources going to come from? What is going to teach me how to do this? Or

Dianne: Yeah, curiosity

Laurin: going to show up at the right time.

Dianne: we all need to lean into more curiosity of that's interesting. I wonder what will happen here. I wonder, you know, just leaning into maybe again, dreaming more. That's what we talk about in the vision board workshop is when, you know, when we're young, we believe anything's possible.

And then as we get into the adulting mode, especially when other people are responsible, we're responsible for others. We tend to assume we can't have both. And so we get out of the dreaming phase and believing in what's possible and curiosity. And that's what's so magical about the workshops is all of a sudden you connect with that again.

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What if there was another way? What if I could, what if I could have a slower pace? What if I could change careers? What if I finally wrote that book? What if I started that business? I've always, what if, again, you're right. There's fear. Being brave means you have fear and do it anyway because the passion is greater than the fear, right?

But also tapping into trusting yourself and saying, I wouldn't have this dream if it wasn't possible. It wouldn't even be in my mind or heart.

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Dianne: Yes.

Laurin: That's that's a really important point to make because I hadn't thought about that, that in that way before.

Dianne: A hundred percent and in the world of left brain right brain logic compared to dreaming we get told and that's why you want to talk about the neuroscience part, which is this is not just magic.

Laurin: Mm hmm.

Dianne: Dr. Terrace Swart is a neuroscientist from Harvard who talks about vision boards are neuroscience manifesting is neuroscience.

It is not woo woo, it actually is neurologically proven. And you can rewire your brain to believe in possibility and to believe in what's important, and then your actions will shift to meet and align it. I mean, we've all done, we've manifested our whole lives. Do you think every, that house was manifested?

eople think, Oh, hug a tree. [: 00:33:00

And we talk that way, people go, I'm signing up for that course. I'm totally doing that because that makes logical sense to me. But what, what is layered in here is we do not realize that our limiting beliefs stop us from really living a fulfilling life because we've been told by society or ourselves in our own security.

This goal is more logical, therefore it's achievable. This goal is not logical, therefore it's magic or a dream. That is just what we've told. That's a limiting belief,

Laurin: Yeah. Yeah.

Dianne: Again, it's because we don't know the how. You didn't know the steps to get to where you got to, but as they appear, you take that step.

And this is what I, this is what we do in our life on a daily basis.

Laurin: Yes.

have this goal here. Today's [: 00:34:00

And so this is just a natural extension of that. But I want to really focus on the fact that visually the feeling behind the image you select is the reason why it manifests because you have. So if you think about a vision board, some people also think, oh, it's just about stuff. Well, it really isn't. Like it isn't the car, it isn't the cottage, it isn't the house, it isn't the trip, it isn't the partner, it's not the successful business, it's not the piles of money, it really isn't.

otional intention behind the [: 00:35:00

So in a workshop that we did for a group of women who work together They wrote a million dollars on the check and then they stuck the check on the bulletin board in their lunchroom. And so months later, they came back and said, Hey, that million dollars never manifested. So we're like okay, so what did you need the money for?

Well, I don't know.

Laurin: Oh.

Dianne: There was no intention. So that has no emotional. Meaning no value, no intention. There's no connection to it. And so we said, so why did you need the money? Well, I want to pay off my mortgage. Oh, okay. How much is that? 70, 000. Put 70, 000 on the check.

Laurin: Yeah.

Dianne: So the, the intention for financial finances can be because I want to be secure and I want to feel safe.

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So when you look at your board, Your desire is based on the emotion you want to feel when you have the thing you desire. And that's where you push through the challenges blockages when it seems hard when it's taking longer than you expect, you don't give up because your passion for the feeling is so strong.

Your emotion and intention is what will allow you to persevere and

Laurin: yeah.

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Laurin: And I can see that pattern in, you know, in myself, in the things that we've done and things that I've done and pursued that seemed pretty weird at the time and turned out to be successful. And so, yeah. Yeah, the money thing I know for me, I manifest. Better when it's like for my kids than I do when it's for myself.

Dianne: Interesting observation.

Laurin: And so I've, I've noticed that I can manifest for the family really easily financially. Like I have, I have had big swings in my income, you know, from my work when we really needed it.

Once I was like, Oh good, they're out of college. It just kind of trickled off

Dianne: Yep. I can I

Laurin: I'm thinking, wait a minute.

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And so then we can say to ourself, why do I assume? My money affluence will only work when it's for my family. What is blocking me from feeling worthy? Or what is telling me that I'm not worthy of the flow? Cause money's energy, the flow for needs I have, or by offering service to others.

Laurin: Yeah.

Dianne: There is a value

Laurin: Right.

Dianne: to what I offer that people will happily pay, you know, so, so for sure addressing the limits limiting thoughts we have around our money mindset even can impact the flow

Laurin: Yeah.

Dianne: of how it comes in and when it comes in.

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Dianne: Yeah, so Ken Honda would say that, you know, there's happy money and unhappy money and this emotional association you put on money impacts the ebb and flow of it and what I love that he said too that we need to understand and not be afraid of Is there is a natural ebb and flow that occurs anyway

Laurin: Yes.

Dianne: in life and to not panic when the ebb happens But just being part of the ebb and flow and I think that's true even as you're working on your vision board and thinking, well, why hasn't it happened yet?

The timing and the ebbing and the flowing is all going to be exactly perfect,

Laurin: Yeah.

Dianne: right?

Laurin: It's what I call divine right timing.

Dianne: Yes.

Laurin: And I refer to it as my favorite time zone, D R T.

hat down. Writing that down. [: 00:40:00

Laurin: myself of that, you know, it's even though I have a lot of experience with just, you know, everything will happen when it's supposed to happen. And I very much embody that and live it. But I still every now and they go, why isn't this working? Oh, it's not the right time yet.

Dianne: good, good, good quickness to that. Because we are on a human journey. Like, we are human, and even coaches, or people like yourself, or anyone watching, we have some awareness, but it's still always the struggle, again, between the 3D world and the humanness of our experience, and limiting beliefs and fears.

atterns to get busy once you [: 00:41:00

So I created a journal called from vision to reality specifically so that it's another three months of continuing to align with the vision you have every day is different. There's like I said, three months worth and the top of the page, there's an affirmation statement about your vision. Then there's a goal, a different goal every day that you can create towards manifesting.

Then there's a mindset shift to move you to limiting beliefs and then statement of gratitude. So, it's, there's, and you know this very well, there's, there's tools and behaviors and practices that we continue to make part of our daily routine as much as possible that continue to keep us in the possibility mindset

Laurin: Yeah. Yeah.

Dianne: towards creating this life that we want.

of what you do as a circle. [: 00:42:00

I don't know. It's very nurturing, but it's also just up. It's literally uplifting, you know, and then you go home and nobody's taken out the trash and the dishes didn't get put in the dishwasher. And now I got to do a little laundry or the kid's got a project tomorrow and just telling me about it or, you know, whatever, or I haven't eaten and I'm hungry.

Those things, that's, that's an ebb and flow that I've really learned to navigate. I'm quite good now at maintaining my own vibration at a higher level, but there's still those times where you just go and, and I have to go, okay, right now I have to do the muggle stuff

Dianne: Yes. Ah, [: 00:43:00

Laurin: and then I'll go meditate for a little while so I can get myself back to where I want to be.

You know, So, definitely, definitely it's it's a where I am always a work in progress. We all are, but it's, it's something that I have learned to recognize is sometimes. Yeah, there's just stuff that's got to get done and it may not be stuff. I like to do. So it kind of drags me down, but if I can also in that moment go, okay, I can allow this low energy to make this hard. Or I can purposely step back, sit down, take a breath, close my eyes for a couple of minutes and just recenter, just come back to who I want to be. Inevitably, those things go easier after that.

Dianne: So wise, such great advice and reminder. Thank you for that.

Laurin: it only took me 64 years to figure it out.

Dianne: Yeah, well, at least we got there, you know, and we're still working it. We're still in the process.

if somebody were to come to [: 00:44:00

Okay. Yeah.

Dianne: workshop. So the concept is similar for both in that there's those great mindset exercises. Like, what's your bliss if you had all the time and money in the world, what would you do?

What do you want? And we talk about that in order to connect you with you and what you desire. And then you start picking images. I mean, at a Power Word Workshop, those exercises will have led you into a feeling you want to have, or a word that grounds you, that makes you feel safe, that inspires you, that becomes a motivator.

that's a representative of a [: 00:45:00

Okay. Like, there's 7 areas in your life that we talk about. It's professional and career. Personal and health, leisure, education, financial, family, relationship, spiritual. So the framework for the vision board, it is more of those seven main areas. So we dig into what are some limiting beliefs in those seven areas that are blocking you from envisioning.

The ultimate life you could have. So that's where it gets to be a little bit more in depth. And then you have about 20 minutes to create your power word card. But in the vision board workshop, it's about 3 hours because, you know, we do a working lunch where you're just ripping pages out of magazines.

You're [: 00:46:00

I've got surrender on mine because that's a big one for me. I've got things like grow your business or yes, you can things that kind of when I look at the images. Yes. I this is what I want. But how can I get there? I still need to realize I need to surrender or I need to feel like I can do. And so it's a journey.

ng. One of the most powerful [: 00:47:00

And having that mirrored back to you is part of the most impactful part of the workshop, because we still don't see ourselves. And we still don't see our life. We are not objective. It can be very emotional for people. I had one woman, one woman, someone said, it appears to me that you have an abundant and loving life. And she just started to cry, you know, sometimes you don't see and when you have someone reflect back to you, it's so empowering and it gives you a shift in perspective of maybe I'm seeing myself in a way that isn't true, right? And so I hope that answered your question. That's a bit of a journey that people can expect.

Laurin: Yeah. [: 00:48:00

Dianne: It is,

Laurin: It is so incredibly powerful. And this is a lovely example of how you can, you can experience that because it is really hard, especially at first to lift yourself out of the muck of your life enough.

To go, you know, you have a lot of fun when you go do that. You should do that more,

Dianne: yes.[: 00:49:00

Laurin: you know, instead of, I don't have time for that. I got all this. So there's, you know, there's just, there's just things that we can't see about ourselves without either a lot of practice or having somebody else mirror it back to us.

Yeah. Mm

Dianne: I've had women come out of it when they've done the exercises and they're creating a board like, Oh my gosh, I forgot. I used to make jewelry years ago. I love being creative. I had forgotten because I just got so caught up in work and home and blah, blah, blah. Now that's on their board. And they're like, I forgot.

and take you out of your own [: 00:50:00

They're doing the journey themselves, but it is also the collective, right? Because you're like, I'm not alone. These are, Oh, wait a second. These other women are giving them themselves permission to do this. Oh, so it's okay for me to give myself permission. And gradually they start going, I can think of myself again and it's okay.

I'm not being selfish. Right? Like, that's really hard for a lot of women,

Laurin: Oh, yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Our job is to take care of everything else, not ourselves.

Dianne: right? And we feel like if

Laurin: Nobody else is taking care of us.

Dianne: No, they're not. I've said this to other moms. I'm like, so, we're sitting and waiting while everyone's doing their thing. We're kind of in limbo and holding pattern. And they're not even thinking about us at this moment. They're off doing their thing. So why, what if we also did our thing?

wow, it really wouldn't. Oh, [: 00:51:00

Laurin: And I would, I would encourage people I'm addicted to a calendar. Everything I do goes on the calendar. And and I have since the kids were little, because it was the only way I could track everybody's activities and things. Now it's electronic, but I have a couple of friends where I make a date with them.

nd have coffee and spent two [: 00:52:00

Dianne: I love it.

Laurin: And I've learned to do that with my friends. Because we all, we're at an age where we don't, most of us don't have kids home anymore. So we're traveling a lot and we're going to visit grandchildren. Not that I haven't yet, but you know, we've got other things, people are still working. And, and so there's just a lot of movement, but we make a point.

Of having a date with each other. Sometimes it's couples and sometimes it mostly it's just the girls. I'm going to see the beach boys tonight with 3 friends.

Dianne: That's so fun.

Laurin: My husband wasn't, you know, wasn't didn't really want to go. I'm like, good. I'm going with the girls,

Dianne: So fun. I love it.

ntments, but I'm not good at [: 00:53:00

Dianne: I love it. And I think it's advice that everybody listening should really implement because and I know that sometimes even hearing what you're sharing, though, I'm sure some of the limiting beliefs are, but I don't have time, or that's not a good use of my time. There's other things I could be doing. Like, I used to slot my time into I used to self judge productive, non productive, and I went and did something that I considered non productive, like you saying copy with friends to me would have been non productive.

I'm like, but that's not true. I've devalued the importance of that part of my life as being joyful. And why is something joyful not acceptable? Like, when did we decide we weren't allowed to make joy part of our life? It all had to be the responsible stuff.

Laurin: right.

Dianne: Like, this is a shift I've worked on years to overcome.

again. You like the theater? [: 00:54:00

Put it on your calendar. Guess what? You are the last, you are the bottom of your priority list and you will bump yourself every time. And then you dishonor yourself

Laurin: Right,

Dianne: by saying you are not worthy of being honored to do something that brings you joy. And I guarantee your family wants you to be happy and they don't want you to deprive yourself of joy.

They're, they're not going to like chase you down going, mom, I really think you should go do this for yourself. But they're going to be like, you don't have to be sitting around waiting for me to get home from doing what I'm doing. Why aren't you like, go, your family will be happy that you're happy.

Laurin: Yeah. Well, and you know, that's the whole, the, the vibration thing I was talking about with the groups is if you're happy, your family's going to be happier. You lift everybody up around you.

Dianne: You [: 00:55:00

Laurin: Again and again and again with my own family and friends, you know, you, you, you get, you get together with friends and they're like, Oh yes, this hurts.

And then I might be at my son's being a bit. And by the end of the time we are laughing and we

Dianne: Thank goodness for a sense of

Laurin: get stuff out of the way and get to the fun stuff. Yeah.

Dianne: thank goodness for a sense of humor and people, the connection is massively important. This is why women community is life changing for me. I would never be without it now.

Laurin: Me too.

Dianne: We are more alike than we are different and there's nothing wrong with you and there's not anything weird about you and feeling good and positive and whatever we consider negative emotion is part of the journey and it's okay to feel that way.

You don't like your kid every second of the day, and that doesn't make you a bad mom. So when we connect with others who are aligned with us, we give ourselves permission to accept that we're okay, and we give ourselves permission to accept who we are,

re our dreams and that makes [: 00:56:00

Dianne: Yes, it does.

Laurin: That's one of the thing ways I keep myself accountable is I share, Oh, I've got this great idea and I'll share it with a friend and that friend comes back and goes, so tell me what's happening with that. It's like, Oh, they're going to check in.

I better get something

Dianne: love it. We, we talk about that at the end of the workshop. That's, we declare, you declare your vision board, and you talk about it in present tense as it's happened already. And by saying that to the universe and to the group of women there, you have now manifested this into reality. It's powerful.

Laurin: It is powerful. I think that's an excellent place for us to stop. I thank you so much for being here. This is, I knew we'd have fun. And and it's really, I love this combination of the science and, and the intuitiveness because it's very, it's very left brain, right brain instead of all left brain or all right brain.

And it's, it's the balance we need to bring.

Dianne: It is.

o, let the listeners and the [: 00:57:00

Dianne: Sure. So, actually, I'm, I'm happy to offer all of your listeners, if they want to just, Email me at Dianne, D I A N N E connect C O N and C O N N E C T at gmail. com. And say you listen to the podcast and you would like to attend one of my virtual Power Word workshops. It's normally 25 US, but I'd be happy to offer your listeners half price.

And then that would give them the chance to do a two hour mini vision board workshop. And. Really experience what we talked about as a taste for the process. I also have my own website, which is connect coaching. ca. If you want to check out, I've got a podcast on there. I've got some masterclasses about achieving personal goals and how you do that.

more about me and what I do. [: 00:58:00

I said, goal setting positive affirmation statements of gratitude and some mindset work to continue to dig into a little bit more about how you can manifest the light that you want to manifest.

Laurin: Lovely, lovely. So all of those, of course, will be in the show notes. So, if you didn't. Yeah,

Dianne: you can check out my Instagram because I have lots of workshop examples in there so you can kind of see what does happen.

mini vision board. I can, I [: 00:59:00

We had a lot of fun with that. So thank you so much for being here, Dianne. I love spending time with you and I always learn something from you, which is one of the reasons I like hanging with my friends because they're all really smart.

Dianne: The feeling is mutual and I'm honored. I think you are a very special woman and I think you have a lot to offer. And I think the communities you create, whether it's through your podcast or your circle healing groups, You're really doing important work and the world needs you. So I want to thank you for that and letting me spend time with you, which I love as well.

Laurin: I got it mirrored back. Thank you. All right. So I hope that you'll join us again for the next episode of Curiously Wise. And in the meantime, I want to invite you to stay curious.